As programmers, we often tie our sense of worth to the success or failure of a project. But when we internalize success as a result of our own brilliance, it can lead to pride. On the flip side, viewing failure as entirely our fault can spiral us into despair. The truth is, success and failure are beyond us. We’re participants in the process, but ultimately, we have limited control over the outcome.

Take my experience with a Microsoft Azure webinar, for example. After days of preparation, Azure unexpectedly went down at the start of the event. Despite my diligent efforts, I was reminded of just how little control I had over the final result. Sure, preparation is key, but in the end, we’re instruments through which outcomes are achieved.

The next time you face a major challenge, remember to focus on what you can control—your participation and preparation—and leave the rest to forces beyond you. It’s a more balanced approach, one that can keep you grounded in both success and failure.